If God said that the most satisfying, sexually charged and passionate filled experiences of your life will be found in the relationship with one person for all of your life here on this side of eternity, would you believe him?
Before you answer, consider the Garden of Eden. In reading a recent “Ask John Piper” he concluded the answer to the question “Why did God forbid one tree in Eden? by stating “The forbidding one tree is a way of securing that the pleasures of all the other trees in the garden are supremely pleasures in God.” In other words only one tree was forbidden and one of its purposes was to point to God’s gracious generosity and wisdom in providing the 10,000 other trees available to you. But if you do take of the the forbidden fruit, you will lose the pleasure of the Garden and even the pleasure of God himself in your disobedience.
Now consider the idea of marriage: the pleasure and holy work of God in your lives coming together to exalt God, his gospel and his ways. He says that in this relationship you will find God’s goodness and generosity. You will find satisfaction and comfort. God will use this relationship to make you both more like Jesus. And… you will find the greatest experience of sexual satisfaction as intended by God. One that you will have to work on at times, One that you are encourage and at times commanded to enjoy. One (and here it comes) that will be the greater pleasure than 10,000 other people could provide.
So back to my first question: If God said that the most satisfying, sexually charged and passionate filled experiences of your life will be found in the relationship with one person for all of your life here on this side of eternity, would you believe him? Marriage is the way God has set up the sexually experience to be at its most satisfying. So why do you watch porn, soft core or hard core? Why do you flirt with others and not your spouse? Why is the affair you are in or are considering the path you are taking? THEY WILL ALL FAIL TO SATISFY! Your weapon in the fight for purity is to believe in the promises of satisfaction found in the martial relationship the God has provided and the sexual enjoyment you pursue together with each other.